I sit here, at my mother's, and realize how much has changed. Life escaped us and we've gotten out of touch. Not with each other, but with the actual reality that we all share. Reality being individual understandings of how one perceives the world and then there is "actual reality" which is truly happening amongst all living creatures. We've become disconnected from reality as a whole. Delusional would be the best way to describe our individual realities to which we live. But at the same time, we're right and know it to be true. Hence delusion, no matter what you tell us, we know better than what you're trying to point out. Even if we're wrong. My mother has been being abused by her boyfriend of 12 years. He beats her, he's raped her, been a drug addict his whole life, mentally drags her down, and has even possibly molested one of my sister's. But without proof, all we have is an accusation of the fact.
My mother is a strong woman. She's been to hell and back more times than I can count, and still knows how to smile. Though, she her self isn't all innocent; having done drugs for the past 3 years since her mother (my grandmother) had passed, she still gives her all for her family and has never turned her back on her kids. Lately, she has been out of touch with how to deal with all the overwhelming stress and the abuse of her former ex-boyfriend that she has come to the point where she can't take much more. At this moment, she has 2 black eyes, is mentally drug out, and seems to be listening to those voices of self doubt and insecurity that scream in all our heads. Yet, she still has the strength to smile and laugh along with the room. To me, that's real strength.
I forfeited a new job I just got 2 days ago today to stay with her and ensure her safety. Not that I wanted this job anyways. I mean, I've only just started, worked 4 hours only, and I already know I'm mentally not stable enough to keep up. My anxiety and paranoia are still too strong (intensively overwhelming) for me to be able to maintain a sense of self that is capable of fulfilling even the most simple of tasks. Those 4 hours felt like eternity compared to what I remember from previous jobs I've had. Only because I felt so estranged and out of touch with my fellow man. Although, strangers always seem to be a trigger for me. No matter how able I feel in my moments of strength and clarity of self. Those moments usual take place when I'm in my bedroom.
Right now, I sit here at her dining room table, surrounded by friends and family, enjoying some rum with her and these people. She just kissed my head and told me she loves me and I replied with I love you too. Her heart is still as big and open as ever even after all the trauma she's been through and is still going through. Avril Lavigne plays on the radio and I seem to be the only one who notices her lyrics. Keep my head above water. I hope my mother knows I love her with every breath I take and would do anything to keep her from falling if possible. Hell, I gave up a job to stay with her. I'm sure she knows.
As of late, life has been a motion being gone through after another motion. I have no sense of direction and don't know where I'll be tomorrow. Fuck, I don't even know where I'll be tonight. All I know is I'm in this for the long haul. This life I mean. Even though I have no idea what I'm doing. I feel so lost most days. But, today, it feels alright to be lost. Lost in the sense of who I am, where I'm going, and what I need to do to get to where I'm going. At least I have myself (this incoherent person without a cause or an idea of what I am going after) and those who play the part of being my friend to keep me from fueling these feelings of hopelessness that haunt me dearly. At least I have family and I don't know about your family but, mine seems to be as strong as epoxy or even cement. We stick together and I couldn't ask for anything better. Well, maybe a sense of purpose but, I feel as if my purpose is one of a purposeless nature anyways. Meaning, to me, that I'm just here for the moment. This experience of existence that I'm experiencing through my take of what reality is.
This life of mine is just that, life. And I have no idea what I'm doing. I only pray that where ever I'm meant to be, that I get there without too much suffering and a minimal amount of pain. I only pray I'm doing what's required of me through the eyes of the one true creator of the universe. Though, who is to say "He's" got an exact plan anyways.
This is my Sunday morning. And it's pretty alright.